It’s finally acceptable to find a girlfriend (or at least a one-night stand) on the Internet.
Here is our quintessential guide to online dating…
Step 1 : Choose your dating site or app
Focus on only a few. You could cast a wide net and sign up for every single online dating site. Or you could follow our flowchart and find the one designed to pair you with the woman.
Below are our recommend list of online dating sites :
Tinder (paid), Match.com (paid), Eharmony (paid), PlentyofFish (free)
Step 2 : Create a solid profile
First and foremost, be honest, but not brutal in your self-assessment. It’ll be obvious pretty quickly upon meeting if someone is lying, the authors say. Liars “look as if they are thinking hard for no good reason and to converse in a strangely impersonal tone.” The perfect description falls in a 70:30 ratio of what you are like to what you want. The researchers suggest the boring but supposedly effective, “Genuine, attractive, outgoing, professional male, good sense of humor, into keeping fit, socializing, music and travel, seeks like-minded, good-natured girl to share quality times.
So the obvious “be good looking” aside, there are a few hacks that give you a better chance of being swiped right. You should have a “genuine smile” in your picture, one that crinkles up your eyes. When it comes to online dating, girls need to see your face, but shooting up close with a wide-angle lens makes your nose look bigger. Have whoever’s shooting step back just enough to get a three-fourths shot of your body.
Selfies alone won’t cut it though. No Mirrors Allowed in any photos! You should provide photographic evidence that you have friends. It’s good if you can get a shot of you in the center of a group of people (because, Power), better if you’re a man to have a few women smiling adoringly at you (because, Desire), and best if you’re shown touching another person, but not being touched, because apparently the toucher is perceived to be of a higher status.
Choose action shots. Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.
Keep it short and sweet ‘You wouldn’t introduce yourself to someone in a bar with your entire life history, so don’t do it online. Don’t write too much because mystery creates a sense of more attraction .Most people want to find someone who can make them laugh, so show people you have a sense of humour. If you can make someone laugh, it’s a great icebreaker and could get your conversation off to a great start.
Check your grammar
Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point. Put your profile into Word and use your computer spell check for peace of mind.
Even if you do like “walking on the beach” or “drinking wine in front of a roaring fire” leave it out – everyone says that. Think of something interesting that could be a conversation starter.
List sociable hobbies
People have to imagine how they’ll fit into your life, so describing yourself as a “bookworm and internet addict” makes them feel they’d never see you. Play up your love of anything sporty, outdoorsy or public – like concerts and exhibitions.
Step 3 : Don’t Be This Guy
The Nice Guy
About him: “I’m a gentleman and would treat you nice”
Says he’s looking for: “The One”
His first message: “Hi, How are you ?”
Is actually looking for: Any woman that is willing to give him the time of day. He is willing to shower her with gifts and pay for expensive dinners.
Says he can’t live without: “His mom and his dog, Chuck”.
His first message: A 1,200-word letter noting his darkest fears (“dying alone”) and why he hates Starbucks (“cocky baristas”).
You might be him if: If you consistently try to impress every beautiful girl you see online… And start to wonder why they never reply
The Dude Who’s Allergic to Shirts
About him: A guy that spends countless hours in the mirror. Posting Selfies of himself just after a gym workout
Says he’s looking for: “Series relationship and a hottie.”
Is actually looking for: C cups or bigger. And a one-night stand.
Says he can’t live without: “Protein shakes and need to go to gym only basis to keep his godly physique. Yeah right…
Says his defining trait is: “Loyalty.”
His actual defining trait: Calls everyone “Hey Buddy”
Says his deepest fear is: “Snakes”
His actual deepest fear: “Being Alone”
You might be him if: You post at least a minimum of 2 selfies a day..
About him: “I’m not like all those uptight douches who makes lame date plans.”
Says he’s looking for: “Fun & Outgoing Girls!”
Is actually looking for: Anyone.
Says his motto is: “I work hard so I can play hard.”
What he actually means: “I spend Friday nights doing vodka shots and trying to pickup chicks at bar. Instead end up going home alone”
His first message: “You’re a cutie”
His dirty secret: He’s lonely.
You might be him if: You’ve ever done a magic trick at a bar.
Step 4 : Make Your Move
No pressure, but that first message is as do-or-die as it gets in online dating. Be brief And be the right kind of funny. Subtle self-deprecation works great. Mention a common interest from her profile—we both like skiing!—but save the anecdotes for your first date. Which, lastly, is your job to set up.
The biggest complaint we get from women when it comes to online dating is that guys don’t pull the trigger and ask them out. You can’t woo her via letter, so grow a pair.
Step5 : Master the Game
Let’s be honest: Online dating is a numbers game, and the majority of people you come across aren’t going to work out for one reason or another.
In most cases, women have 100 of men sending them messages. So come up with more creative ways to engage them.